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Safe means that all participants have evaluated the risk of what they plan to do and find it acceptable, that the equipment to be used is in good condition and that they know how to use it (as in any sport).
Sane, that all participants can understand the difference between fantasy and reality, and act accordingly. (It means that they are not insane, under the influence of alcohol or drugs or are somehow impaired to make decisions).
Consensual, that, being all participants aware of what is going to happen, accept freely to participate. It also means that the consent can be retired at any time during the session by any of the participants.
The game cannot be considered consensual if played with somebody that is not able to consent, as minors or mentally handicapped persons, or if consent is given by somebody whose reason is impaired for any cause, as for being under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
For the game to be actually a game, the participants should agree in a safe word to be used by the bottom to retire their consent if they feel it convenient. The top must stop playing immediately if the bottom uses the safe word.
Outside of the general definition, what is safe and sane depends on personal viewpoints. There are people that do things, and not only on BDSM, but also in other areas, that are not safe or sane on our view (sometimes call them "extreme sports" and you can see them on TV).
What consensual is does not accept any kind of discussion.
Consent is the actual difference between a BDSM session and abuse, as consent is the difference between lovemaking and rape
